The Advantage Player

We had a very interesting professor. He once discussed this amazing life truth, probably the only thing I paid attention to in his class. Challenging the human desire to achieve goals, he illustrated how unhappy we become while trying to get something. And so he concluded that if what we want something (to be happy), in the process it actually gives us more pain. Very beautifully sweeping in the Bhagwat Geeta, he presented us with his side.

Happiness is in the attitude or the approach of the individual and not something we want to reach at. More times than often, we fail to realise what truly would makes us happy.

If you are someone ambitious, you would agree that often it’s the people who are more ambitious that are sad than people who have little desire of something. A lot of times it makes me want to be a ‘happy go lucky be like a puppy’ kinda guy until the stupid competitor spirit devil in me awakens. And then I am left all bamboozled.

According to Steven Covey; you can do anything and be anything you want, only thing is that you gotta pay a price with your brain-share for that. Pretty simple & true. And I think after being pretty unhappy a lot times with pushing myself to challenges, I can successfully blend the two theories.

Approach is the one which needs more or equal attention a lot times than the goal itself. No rocket science but sometimes with all the natural instances poking in your face you tend to overlook everything and focus on just getting there. Forget about it and enjoy the ride…be happy with the right approach; make an effort, it does need your brain-share.

Ok now, I see that the last post was heavy and kinda long but it certainly did not wish to invite misunderstanding with what I wrote; ok may be a little bit. So I thought to clarify all what people have misunderstood. Consider following instances which recently happened:

Situation 1

Wise-man 1: “Hey dude, I read your blog. I know you are going through a lot of insecurity lately man. We can meet up and talk if you want.”

Situation 2

Wise-woman1: “Oh ya, I read your blog. You are spending a lot of time these days with that guy, what’s his name..aahh some insecurity guy right.”

Me: “that’s not what it’s about”

Wise-woman1: “ok, I didn’t read it all the way then..”

And just when I thought I was covered with pie all over, Nav added the chocolate sauce…

Nav: “That’s why I don’t write long posts”

To make the last post make me look less of a loser I wish to give the following disclaimers:

Disclaimer 1:

It was a generic thought. It did come out of things that I faced but was meant to overall understand the meaning of insecurity in our life.

Disclaimer 2:

Lets not forget the essence of this blog (I expect you to remind me that when I get random in futureJ)