The Advantage Player

I have been through a great time recently with my pal Insecurity (Nav, you know am not replacing you man). It has taught me more about myself than I ever wanted to know. I am glad however that we got to spend time together and I can finally say in the end we are at peace with each other.

Following the close relationship that we now share; I would like to introduce to you my very special infamous friend, Mr. Insecurity. Now here is a little bit of summary about him:

1. He is everywhere, he finds you when you got nothing better to do.
2. …….(shit what am writing are people going to read this?)…bingo!

That’s how people know him as. But don’t give up on him yet, I think he is the best friend anyone could have, if you learn to tame him that is.

Why do we get up and do things that we do everyday? Do we want to prove something to us or to anyone? Doesn’t the thought of achieving something so great or unbelievably cool so inspiring? Reality check, 90 percent of our actions are sole result of our friend Mr. Insecurity (now the debate over whether or not that’s right is a separate issue all together, beyond the scope of my brain and yours, because the first reason you would want to debate is because you want to prove a point and that will land us back to square one).

So the game is 1-1. We do everything because we are insecure about something- we think insecurity is bad.

Now the cynics would argue that evolved forms of insecurity is bad and in small quantities its good and keeps people motivated. Well, I disagree. Consider this; isn’t the drive to do something really challenging much stronger than doing something easy. So shouldn’t the insecurity too be stronger.

Now that I have introduced a hypothesis and gone back and forth (much like the GMAT exam verbal section), allow me to simplify things.

The Truth

We do things because we are insecure. Achievement of something makes us content. Contentment eliminates insecurity and that the stage where we would want to be. The more our mental capacity is or the more desperate we are for contentment, we will try harder to achieve it. Seems good right; here’s the catch. Above things work in a controlled system, in a situation where we push ourselves too much or don’t know how to achieve contentment we become something called a ‘Loser’ (signified by making an ‘L’ on your forehead. If you trying to hard to understand this blog, try doing the same).

The Advantage Tip

Be insecure and learn to enjoy it. Learn to fill your contentment vessels through the right channels and not short-cuts. Understand that achieving something is only momentary happiness and things done to achieve something is of far more consequence as they govern your Winning status in the long run.